Love Yourself More, Sounds Simple But How Do You Do It?
I hard to explain to people that my mission in life is to show you how to love yourself more, a lot more! When people ask me what I do for a living, I used to tell them I was a self-help author or a coach. Boring answer, right?
These days I tell people I am an unusual type of optician and I fit people with special magic glasses.
If you wear spectacles, you will understand the pure joy of ‘new glasses day.’ The day you go to collect your new prescription from the store, and the optician fits them carefully to match the features of your face.
When all the tinkering is done you step out of the optical store into the sunshine and take a few moments to stare in wonder at the sight before you. You are shocked by how bright, crisp and sharp everything looks. It’s amazing; it’s like you suddenly got an upgrade to high definition eyes.
See yourself in a different light
Of course, nothing has really changed out there on the sidewalk. That super HD world always existed, it’s just before walking into the store you had forgotten what it looked like.
Now with your new glasses on, your perception of the world has changed. Yes, this is a metaphor for what happens to Super HD, amazing individuals the world over.
We come into the world a blank canvas capable of absolutely anything and everything. However, slowly over time, our perception of life fades, distorts and degrades.
As we go through the stages of development, we are taught many things. Some things positively serve us, but others create limiting beliefs that hold us back. The world slowly starts to lose its hard edges, the colors lose their depth and what was once bright becomes dim.
Do you wish you had more self-confidence?
Some people wish they had more self-confidence, or even worse than that, they witness the positive self-image they want in somebody else and get jealous of them. They act like that other person got a better deal of the deck.
Perhaps born with little something that was held back for the chosen few. Let me tell you here and now; babies are not born confident.
There has never been a midwife hold up a screaming newborn and say ‘oh no this baby has been born without any confidence.’
Equally, babies are not born with more than their fair share of confidence either. If today, as an adult you are lacking confidence, this is only because you are wearing the wrong glasses. Your view of yourself is out of focus in this area, and that’s all!
The fantastic news is you have stumbled upon a book by one of the best fitters of new specs in the world.
We are all born with infinite potential, on that day when we come screaming into the world, nothing is impossible for us. In that moment and for not long after the boundaries of our future are limitless. I know even now, so early on this journey, some readers will be thinking.
But what about people born into poverty or with disabilities?
Those thoughts are houses built on sand, they appear to stand up to inspection but what I will demonstrate at my live events is that they are limiting beliefs without foundations.
If pressed I am sure you can think of someone born with severe disabilities who have gone on to achieve amazing things in their life.
Destroying your limiting beliefs
It is equally as likely that you will be able to think of many more people who have no physical challenges, who were born into the safety, wealth and abundance of civilized western life that have decided to become an abject failure.
Our limiting beliefs are all lies, every single one of them. I tell people that I can’t dance, that is a lie. The truth is I have never really tried, I am afraid I might look silly, and so I have created plausible deniability to ensure that I never risk being in that situation.
As a species, we are motivated by only two overriding factors. The desire to move towards pleasure or the need to move away from pain. Two very laudable goals and entirely understandable but it’s essential that you know that the two objectives are as opposite as black and white.
They may sound similar, and I will admit that escaping a painful situation could easily be misinterpreted as being ‘pleasurable.’ However, only one of these actions serves us in a positive away.
Achieving your goals
Moving towards pleasure is an empowering, positive action. Pushing away pain and discomfort is an act that may have a purpose, in some situations it may even save your life but it is a generally disempowering act.
In my case, creating the limiting belief that I can’t dance as a means to protect myself from the embarrassment of trying does not serve or empower me. In truth, I watch people dancing and feel envious of their ability to be so at ease with themselves, to be so free and happy to do something like that in public.
So while my firmly held and argued belief that I am incapable of dancing serves a purpose it most certainly does not serve me.
Unleashed: LIVE – How To Love Yourself More
My Unleashed Live events around the world are designed to help people love themselves more and unlock their full potential. In one day they have breakthrough after breakthrough, it really is the most powerful program I have ever created and the changes in people are dramatic.
If you would like to find out about my next live event click here for more information. I would love to meet you and fit you with some new glasses!