How to Meet The One
Seriously, being an author and speaker means I get to meet and speak to a lot of people. I meet amazing individuals who haven’t got the first clue how powerfully unique they are. I meet wealthy and super attractive guys who are desperately asking about how to attract women.
But why do people have this natural tendency to be their own worst critic?
The problem starts (as they always do) in our childhood. For the first seven years of our life, our brains are not sufficiently developed to apply the level of critical thinking we can when we are adults. What this means is everything we are told is processed as fact. This is why children will believe any magical story without the need for the slightest bit of evidence.
Father Christmas and the tooth fairy are only alive today because of this function of the young human brain.
Now, if we lived in a perfect world, with perfect parents and perfect siblings, then all would be well. If we were only ever encouraged and told how beautiful we are then the value, we place on ourselves in adulthood would never be in doubt.
We Should Never Doubt Ourselves
Sadly, this is not the case. With the best of intentions the people we trust the most program our brains with doubt, fear, and worry. We are always told to be quiet, to stop being so messy, to stop being so mean and so on.
I remember when I was about six years old and my brother was three, we were sharing a bedroom. One night I woke in the early hours from a bad dream and couldn’t get back to sleep. So I decided to tiptoe over to my brother’s side of the room and steal his candy. I had already eaten all of mine. Unfortunately, my brother was awake and while he didn’t say anything to me at the time. In the morning he told our mother all about the night time crime.
My mother went crazy, and she said she was disgusted with me and that I was a selfish and mean little boy.
The problem with these sorts of statements to a young mind is they are accepted as the truth. Of course, one comment is hardly likely to turn you into a serial narcissist but it is the gradual build-up of the negative image that leads to us settling for less than we deserve.
You Are The Source Of The Drama
If you are currently in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you feel amazing or if you are single and sick of getting into short, dramatic and toxic relationships, sit up and take note. Your external connections are a reflexion of your internal image. Before you can find ‘the one,’ you need to fall in love with yourself.
I don’t mean stare longingly at yourself in the mirror all day, but just to appreciate all you have going for you. You deserve to feel like the most beautiful person alive; you deserve to know for sure that you are loved and adored. Everybody deserves to be the most good-looking man or woman alive in the eyes of someone.
The Most Beautiful Personal Alive
I am always telling my partner that she is the most beautiful woman on planet earth. She rarely accepts the compliment because she is very logically minded and always complains ‘don’t be silly, are you saying I am more attractive than Emma Watson or Megan Fox’? The answer is always yes because to me she is. Everyone deserves this, including you!
It’s a brand new year and if you a single and looking for love. Let’s make a deal – this year you are going to kick some serious ass and really get started on how to meet the one for you! Happy new year to you, if you want more advice on the psychology of dating, check out this interview I recently did for DatingAdvice.com
About The Author: Craig Beck settled down at a very young age, and, once his 18-year marriage ended, he had no clue how to date. He was shy, lacked confidence, and was terrified to approach women. After investing significant time and energy in working on himself, he developed the self-esteem and confidence necessary to find fulfillment. Using the blueprint of what worked for him, Craig now offers one-on-one coaching services and online courses through his Law of Attraction University and Seduction University to help men gain the tools and mindset needed to form healthy relationships and achieve success in other areas of their lives.